You just had this feeling that anytime soon, your significant other would call it quits. You’ve tried evading the issue in your private moments together. You’ve seen signs, but you just refused to believe it would go from bad to worse. But you just dismiss everything and hope of giving Bob Dylan a run of his money, and just say to yourself “Perhaps, times, they are a-changin’.” But friend, heed the signs and stop a possible breakup before everything goes haywire.
Do the things that your significant other values the most. Perhaps, you would want to surprise your significant other by preparing his favorite meal. Or you would want to buy a CD of that emo band she’s been raving about but you just can’t stand a second listening to. Cooking or emo music may not be your cups of tea, but at least if that’s meant to appease your significant other, you’re doing something to save a falling relationship.
Try to listen more. Perhaps you haven’t been listening closely to her life plans. Or you’ve been nagging him too much in front of his friends. Stop thinking that you have heard it all before, and let her vent out her ramblings about the world. Short yet intimate chats everyday would send the message that you still want to connect. Add a candle light dinner to boot, and a soothing music in the background, and you just might make your partner think twice of putting your relationship to end.
Talk to their close friends. Don’t assume that you know everything about your partner. His or her friends might know something that you don’t, even if you’ve known each other for a long time. Perhaps, they might be just as glad to help the relationship as they want their friend to be happy. You might learn what her tipping points are, or something that would definitely appease her, and she might find it really thoughtful of you connecting with her friends. Besides, getting on the friends’ good side will give you additional support when things get rough again later on.
Provide for some self-reflection. Think of the times when you crossed the line, when you made her walked out on you in movie house, or when she hung up on you in the middle of conversation. Think of the times when you really messed up and ask yourself if you’re willing to change in order to be with your partner. Although it is impossible to give all your annoying quirks an over-haul, you might come across a trait or two that you are willing to compromise.
Maybe you don’t see yourself following all these tips. But there is only one thing that needs to be said: the point is to make your partner feel that you are willing to make the changes needed to prolong your relationship. If you make your partner feel that it would be his or her loss to call it quits, for sure the relationship is worth giving it another try.
